There’s nothing like going through the decision making process to make you realize your priorities. Recently, I had to decide whether or not to take a new job. As I mulled over my mental list of pro’s and con’s, I noticed that I thought a lot about how other people react. I worried about how my leaving would impact my staff, I worried about certain projects that would be left unfinished. In fact, I thought about others so much, that I began to forget my own needs and wants!
Fortunately, after realizing this, I eventually made the decision that was best for me. I had to take care of myself and I did.
Devoting your time and energy to others can leave you feeling exhausted and over-burdened. Do you always focus on others and have trouble saying “no”? Continually giving in to the demands of others can project the message that your own time is not as valuable as others. People may sense this and take advantage, demanding more and more of your time. Essentially, neglecting your own needs sends a message to yourself and others that you are not valuable or worthwhile. This can lead to a deep sense of unhappiness, in addition to leaving you mentally and emotionally extinguished.
On the other hand, taking care of yourself can lead to increased energy levels, less stress and a stronger sense of wellbeing. Below are some tips to get you started.
Remember that you have the right. We have all the right to time alone, the right to say no, the right to rest and relaxation. These are basic human rights that we are all entitled to. No matter what, you have the right to take care of yourself and do what’s best for YOU.
Yes, you do deserve it. Many people struggle with self-care because they feel they do not deserve to treat themselves well. Whatever happened in your life to create these feelings aside, think about this: if a friend came to you and told you they were going to treat themselves better, would you think it was a terrible idea? The answer is probably no. In fact, you would probably encourage them. So, why can’t you do this for you? Are you really that different from someone else? You are just as deserving – accept this and treat yourself well!
Make YOU the priority. Ask yourself what you need from today. Is it a break away from technology? A bath? A nap? Experiment with doing things for yourself and pursuing what you really want. Putting your own needs first is empowering because you are giving yourself control over your own time and life. Exercise and eating right is a big part of this. By committing yourself to staying healthy and fit, you make yourself a priority. This can led to feelings of wellbeing and boost your self-esteem.
We only have the gift of life once. Don’t you think you deserve to treat yourself well during it? I do.
So, what will you do for you today?